Use This Template for the Perfect Maid of Honor Wedding Speech

When you accepted the role of your bride's maid of honor, you likely knew that the position came with several responsibilities. While most of those duties revolve around providing support at the appropriate moments, there's one in particular that puts you front and center: the maid of honor speech.

To help you craft the perfect address to the bride and groom, we tapped three industry experts to come up with the ultimate maid of honor speech template. Hit their recommended key points, and your time with the mic will be both a delightful surprise to the couple and a highlight of the reception, guaranteed.

Start with a brief introduction

Before you hop into that hilarious anecdote, you'll want to ground your audience. That means beginning by quickly introducing yourself and explaining your connection to the bride.

We can't emphasize brevity enough, especially since "speeches should only be between two and three minutes," says Brooke Keegan of Brooke Keegan Special Events. You don't want to take up precious time outlining the minutiae of how you met the woman of the hour.

Express your gratitude

Being chosen to be your bride's maid of honor is just that—an honor. "You are the maid of honor for a reason. You are loved and important to the couple," says Gretchen Culver at Rocket Science Events. Now is the time to thank your best friend (or sister!) and her spouse for their friendship, love, and support—and for including you on one of the biggest days of their lives. Keep this short, too, and avoid making the speech all about you, says Culver.

Talk about the bride

You'll want to dedicate the majority of your time with the microphone to actually talking about the couple. Start with the bride, suggests Keegan, since you are likely the person in the room who knows her best. Outline her incredible personality traits and share a poignant or funny anecdote from before she met her partner.

Be sure to "tell a story you feel connected to," says event planner Jaclyn Journey, since you'll be more likely to speak from a place of "joy and confidence."

Don't forget the groom

If you don't know the groom as well as you know the bride, include him by referencing ways he and the bride bring out the best in each other. Maybe he convinced her to face her fear of roller coasters, surprised her with the puppy she always wanted, or makes her laugh harder than anyone else (except you, of course).

Be specific

A few strong details that that your listeners can connect with make a bigger impact than a general description of the couple's personality or relationship.

Instead of saying they love to travel, mention the most exotic destinations they've visited; replace a vague reference to their kindness or generosity with details of their volunteer work. Don't just say they like to run—calculate the miles they've raced together. When in doubt, trade length for specifics.

Make them laugh (or cry)

Use humor, if that's a language that you speak well, but don't force it if comedy isn't your strong suit. Share stories where the guests can laugh with the bride or groom, not at them—this isn't a roast, after all—and make sure you can tie the anecdote into an overall positive message about the couple.

If you're not sure you can nail the jokes, go the opposite direction: Let the best man leave them laughing while you bring the tears. "Be funny if it is natural, otherwise stick to sentiment and compliments," says Culver.

Don't bring up the exes

It's just as important to note what not to share: All three experts agree that inside jokes, past relationships, and incriminating stories are all on the banned list. "The speech should be focused on the happy couple," says Culver.

Talk about the couple as partners

Be sure to emphasize what makes these two great—their mutual interests, their ability to grow together in the face of hardship, their commitment to their friends and family. If you're married, you can also slip a few words of practical advice into this section, says Journey: "Giving sweet and funny examples of how to settle a fight or make up for a mistake could make the entire speech feel relatable and memorable."

Finish with a toast

After months of practice ("Maids of honor should write their speeches a few weeks in advance, so that they can practice and feel super confident," says Keegan), you've utterly nailed your short and sweet address. Conclude by raising a toast to the newlyweds and their bright future.

According to Keegan, this should only be your second drink of the night. "Drink just one cocktail or glass of wine before you speak—the last thing you need is to be nervous and drunk!" she says.